Finding Connection with Writing
To Those Who Have Supported Me
When I first began writing, I didn’t set out to inspire or connect with others. My words started as ramblings—a way to let my thoughts and ideas flow in the midst of grief and the complexity of life. But something unexpected happened along the way: people began reaching out, complimenting my words, and connecting to the rawness of my experiences.
This has been an entirely new experience for me. To be honest, at first, I didn’t know how to process the kind words or the way my story resonated with others. But over time, I’ve come to see how deeply sharing my grief has allowed me to not only honor my son but also to provide a space for others to learn how to support those who are grieving.
I’ve been asked several times now, What did you need most in the months and the first year after your loss? It’s such a complex question, and my answer is always the same: everyone’s grief is unique, and our needs change with time. However, if you’re wondering how to comfort someone enduring the loss of a child—or any profound loss—there are a few things I’ve learned that might help:
Listen
Be there to sit with them in their pain. Don’t feel the need to fill the silence with advice or empty words. Just listen. Allow their story to flow, even if it’s messy or repetitive. Let your heart break with theirs as they scramble to hold the shattered pieces of their world together.Understand Their Pain is Ongoing
Grief is not a linear process. There is no “getting over it,” only learning to live with it. Some days, the ache is quieter; other days, it crashes over them like a wave. Grace and patience are everything in those moments when the memories flood back.Acknowledge Their Loss
For so many grieving parents, the greatest comfort is knowing their child is remembered. When they speak about their child, they’re not asking you to fix anything—they’re asking you to understand that their child existed, that they were loved, and that their memory matters.Be Present
Even if you don’t have the perfect words, your presence matters more than you may realize. It’s okay to not know what to say. Sometimes, just being there is enough.
I’m deeply honored that others feel drawn to share their own stories with me or to seek advice on how to support their loved ones. Though I’m no expert, I know what it feels like to be on the receiving end of care, and I’ve learned that the simplest gestures often mean the most.
As time passes, I’ve found the ache is more manageable most days, but there are still moments when it feels as fresh as it was in those early days. In those moments, I am grateful for the people who’ve sat with me, listened, and allowed me to keep my son’s memory alive.
If there’s one thing I want to leave you with, it’s this: parents who have lost a child don’t need you to “fix” them. They need you to understand that their grief is a reflection of love—a love that will always endure. Be gentle. Be kind. Be patient. And most of all, be present.
A Surprising Connection
While my grief writings are deeply personal, I’ve also been surprised by how much people enjoy the quirky side of my projects and ideas. Whether it’s sharing how to make simple moments more special with family or how to bring a little extra creativity. The fact that anyone finds value in my ramblings amazes me. I’m no trendsetter, but knowing that some of my words and ideas resonate is heartwarming.
Honestly, I’m still a little shocked that people take the time to read what I write—hahaha! But knowing my words bring meaning or inspiration to others makes me want to keep going.
This holiday season was emotionally difficult, but I’m working on getting back into the writing rhythm. It’s something I genuinely enjoy and find therapeutic. I’ll try to post more often because if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that words can create connections in the most unexpected ways.
To everyone who has been a part of this journey: thank you for listening, reading, and finding value in my story.
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